Trust and bonding                                

 


Here is the story…….


In the washroom, Child D was sitting on the toilet, trying to finish her business. Suddenly, she said to me, “ Agnes, I pushed a friend in the gym.” I wasn’t surprised she did because she has been very emotional recently. Then, I asked “why? What happened?” in a very gentle tone. 


Child D responded, “ I pushed Child H because I am grumpy and angry.” “No worries. It is okay to be upset and frustrated. But we don’t push or hit our friends when we feel upset or angry. How about this, next time, when you feel upset or frustrated, you come to me or other teachers and ask for a hug.”


 Okay!’ nodded Child D. 


I was deeply touched by Child D sharing her true feelings with me. I also admired her bravery to admit what she had done despite that she knew she made a mistake. What struck me the most was that  the connections we have built made her trust me enough to talk about it and  work it together to solve the issues. 


The moments really remind me of the small, daily interactions that not only matter but also build the bond that allows the young children to feel safe seeking help. It is so crucial to catch the message sent by a little one while they need our help. That support we provide will strengthen  the bonding and make them grow. 

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